Self-esteem is your opinion on yourself and your abilities. It can either be high, low or somewhere in-between. Whilst every once in a while we all occasionally have doubts about ourselves, it can leave you feeling insecure and unmotivated. A lot of things can affect the way you feel about yourself, whether its words that have hurt you, something you messed up on by accident or just simply you can’t feel good about yourself, it it could simply just be a mystery as to why you feel like this. But there are a heap of things you can do to improve your self-esteem!
- Be kind to yourself
The most important thing in life is to look after yourself, we often forget to do this and thats when our self-esteem can begin to lower and we constantly get upset because we feel like we aren’t good enough. Make an effort to be kind to yourself, if you do slip up, just remember we all do and its ok but do not dwell on it. Try and challenge them negative thoughts, don’t let them get the best of you and instead think positive and if you have a day were you do slip up, just think about how you can improve for next time!
Try some self-talk, this is were you say things to yourself to make you feel good about yourself and the things that you achieve in life. It’s like having an optimistic voice in your head that always looks on the bright side. Saying things like ‘i’m doing the best i can’, ‘I can do this’ this will make you feel so much better because you’re boosting your self-esteem by saying a few words we need to hear more often.
“Your life is your canvas, and you are the masterpiece. There are millions of ways to be kind, amazing, fabulous, creating, bold and interesting.”— Kerli
2) You do you
Comparing yourself to other people is 100% going to make you feel worse, often we compare ourselves to people a lot and it can have such a negative impact on our mental health and the way we feel about ourselves. Try to focus on your own goals and achievements, rather than measuring them against someone else’s. Nobody needs that kind of pressure in their lives.
The sad truth is there is always someone that will do better than you in life, but that doesn’t mean to say that you aren’t good at what you do, we’re all different and we’re all good at different things. The best way to boost your self-esteem is to stop comparing yourself to others, because its not worth hating on yourself and your abilities, it will just make you feel worse. You need to be positive and be proud of everything you do, you’re unique in your own way and thats what matters.
“Stay true to yourself, yet always be open to learn. Work hard, and never give up on your dreams, even when nobody else believes they can come true but you. These are not cliches but real tools you need no matter what you do in life to stay focused on the right path.”— Phillip Sweet
3) Realise that nobody is perfect
Always strive to be the bet version of yourself, but it’s also important to accept that perfection is an unrealistic goal. Even though you may see people saying something is ‘perfect’ its not, it’s often just a way to say that things are good at the moment, nothing is ever perfect, no matter how many times people say they’re or their life is.
We need to remember that we all make mistakes in life, and that it is ok to do so, because we learn from them. So remember if you’re feeling down about something, it won’t last forever and the upset you’re feeling is only temporary.
“Instead of trying to make your life perfect, give yourself the freedom to make it an adventure, and go ever upward.”— Drew Houston
4) Focus on what you can change
The best thing to do is focus on the things you can change, don’t strive to change the impossible. Just make small changes with your life or yourself, if you aren’t happy. This could be changing your hair, buying a new outfit, getting fitter, helping people out. Something that will make you feel satisfied and more confident, these changes are possible.
You can’t control a storm that is coming but you can prepare for it. You can’t control how someone else behaves, but you can control how you react. All you can control is your effort and your attitude, when you put energy into things you can control, you’ll be much more effective.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”— Arisotle
5) Celebrate the small things
We all have things in life, that we’re so proud of and that could be huge achievements or small ones, either one is important. These small things can make a big difference, it could be just waking up on time in the morning, or achieving all the things you had to do through out the day. Even though these seem like small things, they will help you feel better mentally and will lead you on to achieving big things.
Celebrating the small things is a great way to build your confidence and start feeling better about yourself.
“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”— Vincent van Gogh
6) Take care of your appearance
Your outward appearance is often a reflection of how you feel on the inside. If you feel sick or upset, thats what you will look on the outside. If you feel happy and positive then that will shine through on the outside. When your self-esteem is low, you often forget to look after your appearance. Small things like picking out a new outfit, taking time to style your hair differently, or getting a shower and moisturising.
This we make you feel so much better, if you start making minor changes to how you look, your self-esteem will get better, you just need to learn to love yourself and the only way you can do that is by taking care of your body and taking pride in how you look.
“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”— Lucille Ball
7) Pursue your passion
Often when we suffer with low self-esteem, we think that we’re not good enough to go after what we’re passionate about, but that is far from the truth. If we constantly live like this, thinking we can’t achieve anything, we will have no ‘get up and go’ or motivation to do anything or pursue our goals.
Sometimes, we will try and make excuses up as to why we can’t do it, but we can, we’re just scared that we won’t do good, but the only way you can truly believe in yourself is by achieving your goals and being proud of yourself.
“It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live.”—Mae Jemison