A story about trusting your gut, overcoming self-doubt, and finding your path into therapy.
Do you ever get a feeling you just can’t ignore?
Not a loud voice.
Not a clear plan.
Just… something.
Funny how something as simple as a bin can become a turning point.
A Tiny Advert That Caught My Attention
Sometimes Your Life Changes in the Smallest Moments
Back in 2009, when my counselling journey started,
I had no idea where I was going.
I didn’t wake up thinking, “I’m going to be a therapist.”
I didn’t have a plan.
I just knew something didn’t quite fit.
One day I was at my mum’s house, emptying the bin into the recycling.
Before that, I’d been reading the Adscene, a free local newspaper at the time.
And in the corner… there was a tiny advert.
“Volunteers needed for East Kent Rape Line.”
I remember thinking,
“Maybe that’s something I’d be good at.”
Just a fleeting thought.
So I folded the paper up…
and put it back in the bin.
Trusting Myself (Even When It Looked Ridiculous)
But then something shifted.
I got this feeling I couldn’t ignore.
It wasn’t logical.
It didn’t make sense.
It just felt strong.
“Go back. Get it. Call them. What have you got to lose?”
And then my inner critic kicked in:
“You’re not good enough.”
“You can’t do that.”
“Who do you think you are?”
But the feeling didn’t go away.
Within minutes, I was outside…
Climbing into a green wheelie bin.
Digging through rubbish.
Trying to find that newspaper.
Hoping no one could see me.
Can you imagine it?
A 27-year-old, half inside a bin…
fighting for a crumpled bit of paper.
The Feeling I Couldn’t Ignore
When Your Gut Speaks Louder Than Your Doubt
That moment changed everything.
Not because of the newspaper…
But because it was the first time I really listened to myself.
The Quiet Feeling So Many People Ignore
A feeling that’s easy to dismiss… but hard to ignore
So many people I work with have that same feeling.
A quiet knowing.
But it gets drowned out by:
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Self-doubt
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Fear
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Old beliefs
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Other people’s expectations
Especially if you’ve experienced trauma or struggled with food, control, or identity.
I Didn’t Know This Would Become My Life
Nurturing Healing Through Empathy
This is something I see a lot in my work as a therapist.
I offer trauma-informed eating disorder therapy in Canterbury, supporting both teens and adults.
My work is neurodivergent-affirming, which means we go at your pace, gently, safely, and without pressure.
Because healing isn’t about forcing change.
It’s about rebuilding trust in yourself.
We spend so much money trying to change how we look on the outside.
Quick fixes.
Dopamine hits.
Things that promise to make us feel better.
But nothing compares to feeling steady within yourself.
That inner glow.
That quiet confidence.
And sometimes…
It starts with a moment that doesn’t make any sense at all.
Like climbing into a wheelie bin…
and choosing to trust yourself anyway.
You Don’t Have to Ignore That Feeling
Becky Stone
Becky Stone is a qualified eating disorder therapist based in Canterbury, specialising in trauma-informed Eating Disorder treatment for teens and adults. She offers online therapy across the UK, supporting clients with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, ARFID, and body image challenges. Becky’s approach is neurodivergent-affirming, personalised, and rooted in compassion, helping clients rebuild self-worth, develop healthy coping strategies, and create sustainable recovery.
“Trust yourself, even when it doesn’t make sense.”
And Sometimes… It Starts With a Wheelie Bin
Sometimes that feeling isn’t about making a big life change.
Sometimes it’s just about having a space again… to think, to breathe, to be heard.
If you’ve been wondering about coming back to therapy, even just for a check-in,
You’re always welcome to reach out.
