How did it all begin?
The Story Behind Counsellor Who Cares
For most of my life, I felt misunderstood. Today, helping people feel heard sits at the heart of everything I do.
I support adults and teenagers struggling with eating disorders, binge eating, ADHD, anxiety, emotional overwhelm and low self-esteem, helping them move beyond shame and rebuild confidence one small step at a time.
I’m Becky Stone, a qualified BACP registered counsellor based in Canterbury, specialising in trauma-informed eating disorder therapy, ADHD support, neurodivergent-affirming counselling and emotional wellbeing for adults and teenagers.
Sessions are available online across the UK and in person for clients in Canterbury and the surrounding Kent area.
Becky Stone
For most of my life, I felt misunderstood.
Today, helping people feel heard sits at the heart of everything I do.
If you’d looked at my school reports, counselling probably wouldn’t have been the obvious career choice for me.
I was the child who daydreamed, stared out of the window and spent more time worrying about everybody else than focusing on my own work. More than one report suggested that if Rebecca stopped interfering in other people’s lives and concentrated on her schoolwork, she’d be a grade A student.
The truth was that I was struggling.
I didn’t understand why things seemed harder for me than they did for other people. I became overwhelmed easily, my processing felt slower, and I often felt different without really understanding why.
Years later, I was diagnosed with dyslexia at the age of 36. Then in adulthood, I was diagnosed with combined-type ADHD.
Suddenly, so many things made sense.
Looking back now, I can see that whilst I struggled academically, I was always fascinated by people.
When we completed a careers exercise at school, two professions kept appearing: social worker and counsellor.
At the time I didn’t think much of it.
Now I realise there was a reason.
I know what it feels like to be misunderstood.
I know what it feels like when people see your behaviour but don’t understand what’s happening underneath it.
And that’s why helping people feel heard has become one of the most important parts of my work.
Your Path to Healing
Therapy With Me
People are often surprised by how down-to-earth I am.
Many people arrive at their first session expecting a therapist who sits silently, nodding occasionally while they do all the talking.
That isn’t really my style.
Of course, therapy is about listening, but it’s also about connection.
I’m naturally curious about people. I genuinely want to understand who you are, what has happened to you, what matters to you, and what you’re struggling with.
Clients often tell me they feel comfortable quickly because they feel like they’re talking to a real person rather than being analysed.
My role isn’t to judge, fix or tell you how to live your life.
My role is to help you understand yourself better, make sense of what’s happening, and find a way forward that feels right for you.
Why This Work Matters So Much To Me
A Deep Commitment to Healing
One of the biggest misconceptions I see is that people believe they’re stuck.
By the time many people come to therapy, the shame has become so overwhelming that they genuinely can’t see a way forward.
Whether it’s an eating disorder, binge eating, ADHD, anxiety, low self-esteem or another coping strategy, people often believe they’re broken.
I don’t see it that way.
What I usually see is someone who developed a coping mechanism that once served a purpose.
It helped them survive something difficult.
It helped them manage overwhelming emotions.
It helped them feel safe.
The problem is that what once protected them is now causing pain.
I don’t believe change happens through criticism or pressure.
I believe it happens through understanding.
Together, we explore the patterns rather than focusing on blame.
We look at how your brain works, what purpose the behaviour is serving and what small changes might help you move forward.
I often talk about working at 1%.
Not huge goals.
Not dramatic overnight transformations.
Just one small step.
Then another.
Then another.
Because confidence grows through evidence, not pressure.
Over time, those small steps begin to rebuild something many people have lost along the way:
Hope.
Helping People Feel Less Alone
One thing I’ve learned through this work is that shame thrives in silence.
Many of the people I work with arrive believing they’re the only person who feels the way they do.
They’re carrying thoughts, fears and behaviours they feel embarrassed to talk about.
Often they believe there’s something wrong with them.
One message from a client has always stayed with me.
After a session, they told me that although it was uncomfortable hearing me describe exactly what was happening in their head, it was also a relief.
For the first time, they realised they weren’t the only person experiencing it.
That moment matters.
Not because I’d fixed everything.
Not because I had all the answers.
But because they no longer felt alone.
Sometimes the biggest shift doesn’t come from advice.
Sometimes it comes from finally feeling understood.
That’s the space I try to create for every person who walks through my door or joins me online.
Over the years, I’ve developed a particular passion for supporting people struggling with:
- Eating disorders
- Binge eating
- Emotional eating
- ADHD
- Neurodivergence
- Anxiety
- Low self-esteem
- Teen mental health
- Life transitions and emotional wellbeing
My approach is trauma-informed, compassionate and neurodivergent-affirming.
I understand that behaviours don’t appear out of nowhere.
There is always a story underneath them.
Together, we make sense of that story and begin creating a different future.
The Person Behind The Therapist
Outside of counselling, I’m a mum, a nanny, a business owner, and someone who is still learning and growing every day.
One of my favourite recent moments happened with my three-year-old grandson.
I turned around and asked him what he was doing.
He looked straight at me, pointed his finger and confidently announced:
“Crazy nanny.”
Apparently, that’s how he sees me.
And if I’m honest, he’s probably not entirely wrong.
I love to laugh.
I don’t take myself too seriously.
I make mistakes.
I get things wrong.
I’m human.
I think that’s one of the reasons I connect so well with the people I work with.
I’m not interested in pretending to be perfect.
I’m interested in creating a space where people can show up exactly as they are.
Because real change doesn’t happen when we’re pretending to be somebody else.
It happens when we feel safe enough to be ourselves.
Ready To Take The First Step?
Whether you’re struggling with an eating disorder, ADHD, anxiety, low self-esteem, or simply feeling overwhelmed by life, you don’t have to figure it all out alone.
You don’t need to have the right words.
You don’t need to know exactly what you need.
You just need a place to start.
If you’re ready to take that first 1% step, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.