Healing Starts Here
Identifying Abuse & Rebuilding Your Confidence
Abuse can be hard to recognise—especially when it’s not physical. Whether you’re still in the relationship or finding your way out, this page is here to help you name what’s happening and begin your healing.
Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice.
Understanding Emotional Abuse
Abuse isn’t always loud. It doesn’t always leave bruises. Sometimes, it creeps in quietly through control, shame, and manipulation masked as love.
Whether you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, experienced coercive control, or lived through patterns of deep-rooted emotional abuse, it’s not your fault. And it’s not too late to heal.
Recognising the Signs
Abuse can look different for everyone. It can be physical, emotional, sexual, or financial. It can come with charm, promises, and ‘honeymoon phases’ that confuse and silence you. But if you feel small, unsafe, or like you’ve lost yourself it’s a sign.
Some common behaviours in abusive relationships include:
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Constant blame or gaslighting (“You made me do it.”)
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Isolation from friends, family, or work
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Emotional blackmail, silent treatment, or guilt-tripping
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Sudden outbursts followed by apologies and grand gestures
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Controlling what you wear, where you go, or how you spend
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Disguised kindness that serves only to regain control
You might feel stuck in a trauma bond torn between fear, hope, confusion and loyalty. That’s a normal response to abnormal behaviour. And you’re not alone in this.
Recognising these patterns is the first step towards reclaiming your life. You deserve to feel safe and valued. Trust your instincts and reach out for support when you need it. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.
Understanding the Cycle
The Trauma Bond Explained
I help you name the behaviours that have kept you trapped, and more importantly, why they’ve been so hard to walk away from. Together, we untangle the cycle of abuse:
➔ The tension that builds
➔ The incident that happens
➔ The apology that feels convincing
➔ The calm that keeps you hooked
I work with both women and men, whether they’ve left the relationship or. I create a space free from shame, pressure, or judgement so they can begin to recognise what’s been happening while they are still in their own time.
Counselling Insights
Empowerment Through Therapy
Rediscovering Yourself
Reclaim Your Life
Counselling offers a safe space to explore and understand the dynamics of your experiences. Here, you can learn to regulate your emotions, set boundaries that protect your well-being, and rebuild the confidence that might have been eroded. Therapy is about empowering you to step out of harmful patterns and into a life where you feel secure and self-assured.
This isn’t just about leaving an unhealthy relationship. It’s about:
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Rebuilding your confidence
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Creating firm, healthy boundaries
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Understanding narcissistic and coercive patterns
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Breaking free from guilt, shame, and trauma loops
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Learning how to regulate your emotions again
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Finding your voice and learning to trust it
You don’t have to stay in the drama triangle, forever cast as the rescuer, victim, or persecutor. I’ll help you step out of those roles, reclaim your power, and learn what it means to live without walking on eggshells.
Reach Out Today
Ready to Talk?
Abusers often target empathic, kind-hearted people. Not because you’re weak but because you shine. My job is to help you protect that light, not dim it.
Healing doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t happen. It means learning how to exist beyond it.
It means safety. Boundaries. Self-trust. It means you finally get to breathe again.
Begin Your Healing Journey
I’m Becky Stone, a trauma-informed therapist and abuse recovery specialist. I spent three and a half years working at Dads Unlimited, helping fathers rebuild their confidence, identity, and emotional well-being after abusive relationships.
Most of my clients come to me after leaving long-term trauma whether it’s a controlling partner, an emotionally abusive parent, or someone close who broke their trust. Abuse isn’t just physical. It’s the loss of self, the fear of speaking up, and the slow erosion of confidence.
That’s where I come in.
My approach is warm, honest, and rooted in lived understanding. I don’t rush your healing I walk with you through it. Together, we work on:
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Regaining your voice
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Learning how to set boundaries without guilt
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Breaking trauma bonds and cycles of people-pleasing
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Rebuilding the confidence you were told you didn’t deserve
Whether you’ve experienced abuse as a man or woman, in childhood or adulthood, this space is for you.
Please don’t hesitate to start your journey today. You deserve to feel safe, strong, and fully yourself again.