Navigating the Path to Trust in Therapy
Discovering the Power of Trust in Healing
I didn’t want to do it anymore. I was sitting in the therapy room, tears streaming down my face, completely disconnected. I didn’t trust the therapist in front of me. I didn’t feel understood. And I couldn’t see the point of pushing myself through another session.
When Therapy Feels Unsettling
The Challenge of Trust in Therapy
The Relief of Completing Therapy Hours
Why I Had to Do Therapy to Become a Therapist
To qualify as a therapist, you must do your own therapy hours, forty of them.
I thought it would be simple: walk in, talk, heal, and move on.
But no one tells you how deeply confronting it can feel when you’re juggling college placements, supervision, client work, and your own life.
At the time, I was undiagnosed with dyslexia and ADHD, completely overwhelmed and overstimulated. The last thing I felt ready for was digging into my mess.
Discovering New Paths
When Therapy Doesn’t Feel Safe
I chose a therapist who was popular in my area. She was highly recommended.
But the moment I walked in, I knew something wasn’t right. She didn’t get me.
I’m naturally chaotic in sessions; I bounce from topic to topic, talk fast, and process aloud. But instead of feeling held in that, I felt judged.
One day, after a hefty session, I walked out sobbing, not from a breakthrough, but from feeling deeply unseen.
The Power of Pausing
The EMDR Session That Broke My Trust
She suggested EMDR the next time I came in.
I wanted to tell her how disconnected I felt in the room, how therapy wasn’t helping. But instead, I went along with it.
And it left me feeling worse, physically sick, unsettled, unsure what was wrong.
That’s when I realised:
It wasn’t the process. It wasn’t the technique.
It was trust.
I didn’t trust her, and without trust, therapy cannot work.
Embracing the Depths
Ending My Therapy Hours Felt Like Relief
I had to finish my forty hours to meet my college requirements. I felt trapped.
But when those hours were done, I was relieved. I didn’t owe her more time. I didn’t have to keep sitting in a space that didn’t feel safe.
And the biggest lesson?
If it doesn’t feel right, you’re allowed to walk away.
Understanding Trust and Self-Awareness in Therapy
By the end of that therapy, I was exhausted.
And that’s something I tell my own clients now:
Healing doesn’t always have to be endless and hard. Sometimes the most significant shifts happen after the sessions, when you’ve had space to breathe.
It’s okay to pause. It’s OK to step away and let things settle.
Exploring the Depths of Healing
The Journey to Self-Trust and Recovery
Years later, after a relationship breakdown, I returned to therapy.
This time, I was ready for the deeper, more painful work, the parts I’d avoided before.
That’s when my therapist challenged me on my ADHD avoidance. I didn’t want to go for testing. I was scared of what it would mean.
She looked me in the eye and said:
“You need to sort yourself out. Stop avoiding it.”
It was blunt, but it was what I needed.
And getting that ADHD diagnosis? It didn’t break me. It empowered me.
The Biggest Lesson: Trust Your Gut
Listening to Your Inner Voice
Looking back, I realise the greatest gift was learning to trust myself.
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If your therapist doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to find someone else.
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If you need a break, you’re not failing, you’re resting.
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If you’re avoiding the deeper work, that’s okay too. It will come when you’re ready.
Therapy is exhausting, yes. But it can also be light, funny, and full of moments that remind you you’re human.
When trust is present, that’s when real change begins.
Becky Stone
I’m Becky Stone, a qualified eating disorder therapist based in the UK.
I work with both teens and adults, creating a calm, non-judgmental space where you can explore what recovery means,on your terms.
My approach is shaped by both professional training and lived experience. I know what it’s like to feel misunderstood, overwhelmed, and uncertain about whether things will ever change. That’s why I focus on therapy that feels safe, flexible, and shame-free.
I specialise in:
➔ Eating disorders & body image
➔ ADHD, autism, and neurodivergent mental health
➔ Trauma-informed therapy & relapse support
For me, it’s never about perfection. It’s about helping you rebuild trust with yourself, with your body, and with life.
If you’re curious about working together again, or just want a check-in session, my door is always open.
“Healing Begins with Trust”
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