ADHD Coaching for Adults and Teenagers
In Canterbury and Online Across the UK
You’ve bought the planner. You’ve downloaded the app. You’ve made the list. And somehow the thing you actually needed to do is still sitting there, three days later, while you feel worse about yourself for not doing it.
That’s not laziness. It’s often the result of the executive function difficulties that come with ADHD. The mental skills that help you plan, organise, start tasks and see them through. If you’re an adult or a teenager who starts things and struggles to finish them, who feels permanently behind, who knows exactly what they should be doing and still can’t make themselves do it, you’re not broken and you’re not alone.
Maybe it’s the overwhelm that hits before you’ve even started a task. Maybe it’s the way a to-do list can feel like a wall rather than a plan. Maybe it’s years of being told you’re capable of “so much more” by people who never asked what was actually getting in the way. None of that means something’s wrong with you. It means the strategies you’ve been handed so far weren’t built for how your brain works.
I’m Becky Stone, an ADHD coach in Canterbury offering ADHD coaching for adults and ADHD coaching for teenagers, in person or online across the UK. I offer therapeutic coaching that works with how your brain actually operates, not against it.
Why Work With Me
- Qualified Life Coach (QLS Level 4, Diploma in Transformational Life Coaching)
- Qualified Counsellor
- Clinical Supervisor
- 15+ years supporting adults and teenagers
- Lived experience of late-diagnosed ADHD
- Sessions in Canterbury and online, UK-wide
I bring both formal training and lived experience to ADHD coaching. I’m not guessing at what it’s like to be diagnosed as an adult, to mask for years without knowing why it was so exhausting, or to build a life around a brain nobody explained to you. I’ve done it, and I coach from that understanding as well as from qualification. That combination, training plus lived experience, is what shapes every session, whether you’re working on routines, focus, or the emotional side of living with ADHD.
Why I Do This Work
I was diagnosed with ADHD last year, at 45. That diagnosis brought a strange mix of relief and grief. Relief, because so much of my life finally made sense. The overwhelm, the executive function struggles, the years of masking just to get through ordinary days. Grief, for the younger version of me who spent decades trying to fit into a world that wasn’t built for how her brain worked, without knowing why it felt so hard, and without the language to ask for what she needed.
Since then I’ve had to learn how to stop masking, how to cope in ways that actually suit me, and how to let the people around me adjust to the real me rather than the version I’d spent years performing. That’s the perspective I bring into ADHD coaching. My role isn’t to change who you are. It’s to help you understand how your brain works and build a life (and routines) that work with it, not against it, without shame.
ADHD Coaching for Adults and Teenagers
Many adults don’t recognise ADHD until later in life, particularly if they’ve spent years masking, finding ways to cope, or simply believing they needed to try harder. Whether that’s you, or you’re supporting a teenager who’s still working it out, coaching starts from wherever you are now.
Adults
Whether you were diagnosed as a child, diagnosed later in life like me, or you suspect you might be ADHD and want support before or without a formal diagnosis, ADHD coaching for adults can help you manage overwhelm, build routines that actually stick, and stop measuring yourself against a “normal” that was never designed for you. Many adult clients come to coaching after years of trying to manage everything alone, often successfully on the surface, while privately exhausted from the effort it takes to hold that together.
teenagers
I also offer ADHD coaching for teenagers. Sessions follow the same therapeutic coaching approach as adult sessions, adapted to suit the teenager’s age, goals and attention span including running shorter if that works better for them. That decision sits entirely with the family and the teenager themselves. Where appropriate, I’ll involve parents in agreed ways, while also giving teenagers a confidential space to think and talk. Teenage years bring their own pressures around schoolwork, friendships and self-esteem, and ADHD can make all three feel harder than they need to. Coaching gives teenagers a space that’s separate from school and separate from home, where they can work out what actually helps them.
What Is Therapeutic ADHD Coaching?
ADHD coaching is practical and future-focused. It’s not about analysing your past, it’s about where you are now, what’s getting in the way, and how to move forward. Sessions are built around real, specific goals: getting a routine to actually work, breaking a task down so it stops feeling impossible, understanding why rejection sensitivity is hijacking a relationship or a work situation.
What makes my approach therapeutic coaching, rather than coaching in the more generic sense, is the background I bring to it. I’m a qualified counsellor as well as a qualified life coach, so alongside practical strategy, I understand emotional patterns (shame, masking, rejection sensitivity, burnout) and how they show up in ADHD brains specifically. Therapeutic ADHD coaching draws on that counselling knowledge without becoming therapy. I’m not processing your childhood with you. I’m using an understanding of how emotions and behaviour connect to build strategies that actually fit you, rather than generic productivity advice that was never designed for an ADHD brain in the first place.
Some people benefit most from ADHD coaching. Others need ADHD counselling, or a blend of both. Working out which is part of what the free intro chat is for.
This is sometimes called ADHD life coaching elsewhere. Whatever you call it, the point is the same: working with your brain, not trying to force it into someone else’s system.
What ADHD Coaching Can Help With
starting tasks
actually starting the things that matter, not just planning to
EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING
the mental skills behind planning, focus and following things through
EMOTIONAL REGULATION
understanding big feelings and building ways to ride them out, rather than being run by them
REJECTION SENSITIVITY
why criticism or perceived rejection can hit far harder than it seems like it should
TIME BLINDNESS
knowing what time it actually is, and how long things really take
PRIORITISING
working out what genuinely matters when everything feels urgent at once
ORGANISATION
systems that don’t collapse the moment life gets busy
BURNOUT
recognising it before it flattens you, and recovering when it does
CONFIDENCE
built from evidence of what you can do, not from being told to “believe in yourself”
MASKING
and what changes in your relationships, your energy, and your confidence once you stop
RELATIONSHIPS
at home, at work, or at school, once the people around you understand what’s actually going on
Why ADHD Strategies Often Don't Stick
You’ve probably tried planners, time-blocking, habit trackers, Pomodoro timers, colour coding, productivity apps, maybe all of them, more than once. None of those things are wrong. They just weren’t designed around the way your brain actually works, so they stop working the moment the novelty wears off or life gets in the way.
That’s not a discipline problem. It’s a fit problem. Coaching starts from what genuinely works for your brain, rather than handing you another system built for someone else’s.
Research backs this up: NICE guidance recognises ADHD as being associated with difficulties in executive functioning, emotional regulation and time management, which is part of why coaching tends to focus on building practical systems rather than relying on motivation alone (NICE, NG87).
ADHD Coaching or Therapy What's the Difference?
Coaching and therapy do different jobs, and it’s worth knowing which one you actually need before you start.
Therapy often explores past experiences and works towards emotional healing. It can take time, and it goes deep into how earlier experiences have shaped you. ADHD coaching is practical and future-focused. It starts from where you are today and works towards specific, tangible change: a routine, a strategy, a way of handling a situation that keeps tripping you up.
Therapeutic ADHD coaching sits in between the two. It bridges practical, forward-moving change with a genuine understanding of the emotional and psychological patterns that make ADHD hard to live with. Shame, masking, rejection sensitivity, burnout. Because I offer both counselling and coaching, I can help you work out whether ADHD coaching, ADHD counselling, or a mix of both is the right fit, and if it turns out therapy is what you need, I can point you in that direction rather than coach you through something coaching isn’t built for.
Worth being clear about: ADHD coaching isn’t a mental health treatment or crisis service. If it becomes clear that therapy would better meet your needs, I’ll talk about that with you honestly rather than continue with something that isn’t the right fit.
In practice, that means sessions aren’t just goal-setting and accountability check-ins. If a routine keeps falling apart, I won’t just help you build another routine. I’ll help you look at what’s actually happening underneath it, whether that’s shame, overwhelm, or a system that was never realistic for your brain in the first place. Then I’ll help you build something that fits.
When ADHD and Disordered Eating Overlap
A lot of the people I support with disordered eating also live with ADHD, and it’s rarely a coincidence. Impulsivity, emotional regulation difficulties and time blindness can all show up in eating patterns. Impulsive eating, forgetting to eat altogether, or using food as one of the few things that feels controllable when everything else feels overwhelming. Because eating disorders and ADHD frequently overlap, understanding one without the other can leave important pieces of the puzzle unexplored.
If this sounds familiar, it’s worth reading about my eating disorder counselling alongside this page. My work brings together specialist eating disorder counselling with ADHD-informed therapeutic coaching, allowing me to support clients where these experiences overlap.
Imagine Life Feeling Different
Coaching isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about making everyday life feel less exhausting. Clients often tell me they begin to:
- spend less energy masking
- start tasks without the same mental battle
- feel less overwhelmed
- understand why they react the way they do
- stop measuring themselves against people whose brains work differently
- trust themselves more
- build routines they can actually keep using
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s a life that fits the way your brain works.
ADHD Coaching Sessions
- £70 per session
- Canterbury or online, UK-wide
- Free 20-minute introductory chat
- No diagnosis required
- Adults and teenagers welcome
Every relationship starts with that free 20-minute chat, so you can check it’s the right fit before you commit to anything.
Frequently Asked Questions
Find answers to common questions about ADHD coaching and how it can benefit you or your loved ones.
What is ADHD coaching?
ADHD coaching is practical, one-to-one support that helps you work with your ADHD brain rather than against it. Building routines, managing overwhelm, and developing strategies suited to how you actually think and function, rather than generic advice that assumes a neurotypical brain.
Who is ADHD coaching for?
Adults and teenagers, diagnosed or undiagnosed. Some clients have known about their ADHD for years; others are newly diagnosed, waiting for assessment, or simply suspect they’re ADHD and want support regardless.
How does ADHD coaching work?
It starts with a free 20-minute chat to check it’s the right fit. From there, sessions are £70 each, in Canterbury or online, and focus on the specific things getting in your way (routines, focus, emotional regulation, overwhelm) building strategies you’ll actually use.
What should I expect during an ADHD coaching session?
During an ADHD coaching session, you can expect to work collaboratively with your coach to identify challenges, set achievable goals, and develop personalized strategies to overcome obstacles.
What is therapeutic coaching?
Therapeutic coaching is practical, future-focused coaching that also draws on counselling knowledge (understanding emotional patterns like shame, masking and rejection sensitivity) without becoming therapy itself.
What's the difference between ADHD coaching and therapy?
Therapy (or ADHD counselling) explores the past and works towards emotional healing. ADHD coaching is practical and focused on where you are now and where you want to get to. If you’re not sure which you need, the free intro chat is a good place to work that out.
Do I need an ADHD diagnosis?
No. Many clients are undiagnosed, waiting for assessment, or self-identify as ADHD. You don’t need a formal diagnosis to start coaching.
Why choose Becky Stone?
Because I bring both sides to it. Formal training as a qualified life coach and qualified counsellor, over 15 years supporting adults and teenagers, and my own lived experience of late-diagnosed ADHD. I understand this from the inside as well as from qualification, which means sessions combine practical, structured strategy with a genuine grasp of what it actually feels like to live with an ADHD brain that spent years going unrecognised.
About Becky
Becky Stone is a dedicated therapist and certified eating disorder counsellor based in the UK. With a profound commitment to supporting both adults and teenagers, Becky specialises in guiding clients through the recovery process from eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating. Her unique approach combines professional expertise with her own lived experiences, providing a compassionate and understanding environment for her clients.Becky is particularly passionate about working with neurodivergent individuals, offering flexible and personalised recovery tools, including the innovative Recovery Record app. Her practice, Counsellor Who Cares, is founded on principles of empathy, safety, and non-judgmental support, helping clients rebuild trust in themselves and their relationship with food.