Going into therapy itself can be very daunting, but the thing is it doesn’t always have to be. It can be the stigma around therapy as a whole that makes it hard or the worries of not being able to find the right therapist for you. We all need help sometimes, we just find it hard to admit it. It can be hard to often come to terms with the fact that we might need professional help or admitting we need help with life’s issues. But it’s ok to ask for help and that’s vital to know. 

But that’s not the only important part, it’s also the process itself and being able to trust the person you’re seeking therapy from. Without that trust, it can really take away the many benefits that therapy has and create a rather negative experience. It’s great to be able to trust and feel comfortable around your therapist, where you feel you can speak freely and you feel like you’re not being judged. Finding a therapist should not be one of the decisions that are rushed, it should take time and effort. Here are some tips for you, to ensure you find the best therapist for you.

1) Do your research!

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Something that we should all do if we’re seeking therapy, is research. Researching for the right therapist is very important, it’s not only important to actually do research on therapists themselves. But, it’s also a great way to research and look into what types of therapy are being offered. Quite often, we’re suffering from certain mental health issues or certain problems and we can’t exactly pinpoint what it is that’s causing it. Or we might not know exactly what we’re feeling, so it’s good to get to know what other therapists are offering to be able to ensure you go with the right one who specialises in what you want help for.

Not only that, but it can be to do with whether you think you might need individual therapy, group therapy, family therapy or couples therapy. But, research is honestly so important just like it is in finding out anything you want to and especially when it’s something like therapy. It’s worth the time and effort you put into research in the long run. If you don’t do your research and just go with whoever pops up first, this might end in disaster, because you won’t know what they specialise in, you won’t get a feel for who they’re before you go into the session. So, it’ll most likely make you feel uncomfortable and wishing you did your research.

2) Check insurance and experience

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Most therapists will hold their own insurance, so it’s important to check that. Or, at least find out if they do and also find out about their confidential status and how they go about keeping your information safe. There is nothing wrong with wondering who the therapist is and what experience they have, it’s always best to research into this and see what kind of courses they’ve completed and whether they’re actually qualified in that particular sector. Not only that but the same with insurance, it’s great to know they’re insured and will put your mind at ease.

Always make sure you seek confidential agreements, working agreements things like that to make sure that there is always solid evidence throughout. That you will be able to speak freely about what you want too and it is kept in that space. Obviously, some things like causing harm to yourself or others may have to have others involved for not only your safety but others too to ensure that you won’t hurt yourself or anyone else. Always check this is clear and what exactly they keep confidential and if you will get what is named as a working agreement before sessions.

3) Pick a fair few, don’t just settle on the first one

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Therapy isn’t for everyone and that’s ok, but what is beneficial is researching a fair few different therapists and engaging in therapy with them. Quite often, the first person you visit might not be the one for you, but then the second one might be perfect and vice versa. You might have to go to a fair few therapy sessions to be able to ensure that you feel comfortable and you can trust them and that may take time. But, it’s better it being a bit longer and taking more time to find one than investing in a therapist that you feel uneasy with and you don’t feel like their sessions are working.

Don’t feel bad for changing therapists, at the end of the day you want help for your struggles and to do that you need a therapist that you feel is best for you. Without that, you won’t be able to solve your problems and your mental health may decline even more. You should continue searching until you feel that you’re understood and accepted by a therapist. If you feel anxious, not feeling like you’re being heard, or maybe the therapist talks more than actually listens to you could be indicators that you need to find a new therapist.

4) Call them rather than emailing

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You can get a feel for someone’s personality more through a phonecall then an email, which is why it’s important that when you find a therapist. You, then call them and speak to them about what they have to offer. It may be quite difficult to get the guts to do it, but it will be really beneficial for you in the long run to hear their voice, their tones and their personality coming through when you speak to them. Ask a few questions, to be sure that you feel more comfortable and happy to proceed with therapy with them.

Ask questions about fees, what the sessions as a whole will include if they have insurance, what their experience is and what sort of therapy they specialise in. If you’re someone who suffers from anxiety when it comes to phone calls anyway, chances are you will feel a bit uncomfortable and scared at first. But, if you feel later on in the phone call you can gradually feel yourself feeling more relaxed that’s when you know that, that is the right therapist for you. If you continue to have the phone call and you feel very stressed and like you don’t want to be on the phone, then that just answers your question for you, that you should not proceed with that one. If you feel like there are any red flags, then don’t proceed.

5) Enquire about a free consultation 

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This is such a great aspect to enquire about because it can really help in terms of finding the right therapist. Having a free consultation will be able to ensure if that therapist is the right one for you. You can then get a feel for what the actual session will entitle and also how you feel in that particular environment. Many therapists will offer free consultations, you can then also explain yourself better and what you need help with. It will be able to make you feel better knowing you’ve gone and spoke to a therapist and been able to see if they’re the right one for you.

It’s a huge benefit to be able to meet with a therapist before you start actual therapy, to be able to get to know them more as a therapist and also help you make sure that you will be able to trust them in the long run. So, when you’re searching around for therapists, ask them if they offer free consultations and take them up on their offer because it will make you feel a lot more positive about the experience and help you make a firm decision on whether you want to have therapy from that particular therapists.


If you’re looking for any online counselling or walk and talk therapy whether you’re a parent and you’re looking for your children. You yourself need it or you’re a student or anyone that is struggling at this time, then please do not hesitate to contact Becky. You can access contact details here. Check out the website for more information.

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