Well, another lockdown is here, leaving a lot of us feeling very uncertain, upset and angry. Which is why it’s vital to start doing some self-care. Self-care something we should all invest in, something that many of us sometimes forget to do. It has so many benefits on us. But, most of the time when we think about self-care we often think it’s to do with taking care of ourselves, exercise, taking a bath, skincare, relaxing, watching a movie and loads more. Whilst, that is of course so important and some of the best ways to invest in self-care. It often doesn’t always revolve around that and there can be many different ways to explore self-care ideas. 

It’s one of them things that we shouldn’t just forget about, it’s one of them things we should do even if we have the slightest bit of time. It not only does wonders for your mental health but your physical health too. Delving into self-care doesn’t have to be something that takes a lot of work, it’s something that should come as a priority. It’s definitely a huge benefit to be able to give yourself time to just take a breather, a couple of hours to simply recharge yourself and not let yourself burn out. Along with enabling yourself to feel more motivated and happy for the days ahead. With these crazy times, self-care is more important than ever and we should all be doing it.

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So, what exactly is self-care?

Self-care is something where we do some kind of activity, that we do constantly to ensure we feel happier and more ourselves. We do it to help take care of our mental, emotional and physical health as best we can. Although it all sounds very simple, it’s often something that is overlooked massively. Doing a good self-care routine is key to improve your mood, stress and to reduce anxiety. Self-care is seen as something that should refuel us not take anything from us.

It isn’t a selfish act, it’s something that is not only about taking care of our own needs and not only that but enabling us to love ourselves so we can help ourselves love others. If you’re wanting to start investing more into self-care, you should stick to the basics as much as possible, you will then find your own routine and what you like more and what you don’t. You will be able to implement more into your routine or cut out things that don’t work for you.

Self-care plans need to be something that you plan, rather than something that just happens instantly, whilst this is ok, it’s best to plan out your routine so you’ll stick to it. If you have a busy schedule, you should always be looking at ways to schedule in your self-care.

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What actually counts as self-care?

Whilst, many of us see self-care as taking a nice bath, doing a face mask, playing a video game, watching a movie, baking, taking a walk, exercise, eating healthy and so much more. These are fantastic types of self-care, but they’re not the only ones that really matter. Some self-care comes to your behaviour, the way you live your life and how you can make it more positive as that’s a type of self-care. This can be just taking a breath, simply switching off and just taking deep breathes to enable you to feel better.

It can also be learning to forgive yourself, this can be something many of us find very hard, we often blame ourselves for a lot but sometimes we’re not to blame. When we finally start to learn to forgive ourselves, we can then begin to move on and in time forgive others if we feel it is right. It’s not fair to keep blaming yourself and putting yourself down for perhaps your past when that was so long ago. Another example could be enabling yourself to challenge your negative thinking, this means to not let it completely take over you and put you down even more. In fact, it’s in a way standing up to those negative thoughts and push them aside.

Think of positives, talk to yourself with respect and not put yourself down, don’t let the anxiety be the boss of you instead push it down and realise you’re a lot stronger than you think. It could also be something that is very important being putting yourself first, this is something we often forget to do a lot because we feel that we should always put others first. Whilst, it’s so loving and caring to take care of those we love and be there for them, we can’t always put everyone before us because this burns us out. We then begin to bottle up all of our emotions and then take everyone else’s on, which isn’t healthy.

Another great form of self-care is to have some alone time, we often feel very strange asking for alone time or wanting alone time. But, this is sometimes the best option for us especially if we’re feeling stressed and we feel we could take that out on others. Just having that little bit of time to ourselves, to just unwind and enjoy our own company is vital and it’s ok to ask for time to yourself.

These two are probably the most important and that is cutting out toxic people and learning to say no. We often, feel that we have to agree to everything even if we don’t want too. We should never feel pressured into saying yes, perhaps if this is something to do with doing something for a loved one, but you don’t have the time or you don’t want too. You’ll often agree because you don’t want to let them down, but it’s not healthy to do so. Whilst, it’s ok to do it a few times, it’s not ok to keep doing it to a point it makes you feel exhausted.

Then there’s cutting out toxic people, we all know when we see red flags, some of us often choose to ignore them whilst others cut them people off straight away. We can’t go through life, having people in our lives that suck our energy away, that put us down and make us feel so small. You know your worthy of a lot and one thing you’re worthy of is not having the time of day for people like that.

Remember self-care is so important, especially in these challenging times, it’s important to be able to let ourselves have that bit of time to just take care of our minds and bodies. It’s also good to know just exactly what counts as mental health and it doesn’t always have to be about treating yourself, it can be about the way you live your life and how you do things. 

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