Whilst the situation right now is still so uncertain, it may be leading us to have many more bad days than normal. We all have them, we all have them days where we don’t want to get out of bed in the morning and where we just have no motivation to do anything. Some of us have them more often than others and they’re very hard, they’re hard to pull through, when you can’t escape that negative mindset. But, when we’re constantly putting pressure on ourselves to be better and to be constantly happy and productive day in day out, this can lead us to not wanting to do anything and just lacking the motivation, because we put so much pressure on ourselves and we may not even reliase it. 

Even on those bad days, there is always ways to find positivity, or something that brings a smile to your face even though it may not seem like there is. Learning to change that negative mindset to a positive one takes great strength, but once you enable yourself to do that, you will feel better. Just remember that you matter and it’s important to take care of yourself, just take each day as it comes, to go all in and burn yourself out, just live in the moment and be kind to yourself. 

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1) Change the narrative

We always have a story to tell, we always have days that go from good to bad within seconds and vice versa. We all have our own narrative, our own way of thinking and living in general. Quite often, when we’re having a bad day that narrative can be quite a burden, because the one we come up with can make us feel worse. But, to try and push more of that positive energy into our lives, we need to learn to change our own narrative. If your narrative is focused on negativity or thinking the worst of everything, then it will in turn make you feel low and unmotivated. You have that power to change your narrative and to be able to enter into that more positive mindset. By changing how you think, you help yourself tremendously and it leads you to start to enjoy what life has to offer that little bit more.

What we tell ourselves is what we believe, by changing our narrative, we change the way we think and in turn that changes how we live our life’s but for the better. It all comes down to thought patterns, channelling positivity through what you think about yourself or the current situations you’re going through. Rather than saying to yourself ”I have to be perfect, to succeed” say to yourself ”I may not be perfect, but I’m determined and that’s what I need to succeed”. It’s changing that negative emotion and thought we say to ourselves into something positive. By telling yourself you have to be perfect, immediately puts a whole load of pressure on you to be something that is actually quite unrealistic. Nothing is perfect, don’t strive for perfection, strive for balance, strive for happiness and strive for being the best version of you that you can be, because that is realistic. Change your narrative, don’t be scared to do it, because it will help you smile that little bit more even in the darkest of times.

“We can change our lives. We can do, have, and be exactly what we wish.” – Tony Robbins

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2) Stop consuming negative content 

We all spend the majority of our day on social media, scrolling through endlessly and lets be honest it can affect our mind negatively a lot of the time but yet we still do it. Of course, don’t get me wrong there are some positive aspects to social media and what it entails, but more often than not in regards to mental health and comparison, it has its negative. It has this diverse opinion on whether it helps or doesn’t help people with mental health problems. But, a lot of the time, it’s due to the mind and the way in which we compare ourselves to others, because we’re all guilty of it. Comparing ourselves is actually a way of self-sabotaging our own happiness and we might not even know. Unfortunately, we’ve all been through a stage where we’ve seen something or someone on social media and immediately our mood changes. Whether it’s this amazing picture of a celebrity, this beautiful home, something on the news, or someone from the past, there is always something that can just creep in and affect our mood massively.

We most likely all have someone on social media that we compare ourselves too constantly, or it might not even be a someone it could be an object or even someone’s life. Or it could be the news, there is so much negative media at the moment, which can really put a downer on your mood. We need to get into the habit of avoiding consuming negative content, especially when we’re in a fragile place in the first place. Unfollow them accounts you feel yourself constantly comparing yourself too, follow accounts that bring positivity to your day, perhaps mental health accounts, quotes account, self-love accounts things like that. Choose when you want to tune into the news, if you don’t just disconnect from it all and just let someone you know inform you if there’s anything important you need to know. Cut out the negative content and consume the positive ones instead, social media doesn’t have to be all bad, if you choose to use it right, rather than using it to put yourself down.

”Social media is training us to compare our lives instead of appreciating everything we are.”- Bill Murray

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3) Stop putting pressure on yourself all the time

Another one we’re possibly all very guilty of is putting such massive amounts of pressure on ourselves. Whether that’s to be better, to do all the things we need to do quickly or just the fact we’re putting pressure on ourselves to be further ahead because those around us are. We’re always putting pressure on ourselves, but this can make us feel so much worse and often leave us feeling a lot more low and unmotivated to do what we want to do. We need to get into the habit of teaching ourselves to stop trying to aim for perfection and just live in the moment and do our best. Getting into that way of not putting pressure on ourselves and just letting things happen and reaching our goals when we get to them.

Cutting out that constant feeling of having to be perfect and realising no one is perfect no matter how much it might seem like they’re. Letting go of them unrealistic expectations we have, they bring unnecessary pressure that we don’t need and make us feel so much worse when we can’t reach them. Another way of relieving the pressure we put on ourselves is to stop listening to what others think, some people will tell you how to live your life, how you should look, how you should dress but them people are the ones that you don’t need in your life, the toxic ones. Anyone who tells you, you can’t be yourself or you can’t do what you love in life, will constantly bring you down and no one needs that. We have the power to express who we’re and not be ashamed of that just like we have the power to live our life the way we want too.

”Pause and remember- Slow and steady will get you where you want to go. If you put too much pressure on yourself for results too quickly, you will quickly give up.”- Jennifer Young

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4) Practise gratitude 

Gratitude is something we might forget about doing, being thankful for what we have and showing how grateful we’re. Practising gratitude can really help that positive mindset stick and help you feel better, because we all have something we’re grateful for, even if we don’t show it. It could be family, friends, partners, a home, pets, a job, your favourite food, he little things or even just being able to breathe and live life. It’s about sitting down and really thinking about the positives in your life, just for a little while, rather than always focusing on the negatives. In turn practising gratitude makes us happier, by just jotting down each morning what you’re grateful for can make you smile and feel better instantly. By doing this, it strengthens our positive mindset.

It helps us become more optimistic, which helps make us happier and improves our health overall. Not only that, but it helps relieve stress. By just having that little bit of time out of your day to focus on what you’re thankful for in life, can really help calm you down when you’re struggling mentally. When you’re feeling anxious, angry or sad just take a few minutes to yourself to just reminisce on the things that you’re so grateful for in your life, push them negative feelings aside and you’ll feel yourself calming down and feeling that little bit better by focusing on what makes you happy and what makes you grateful in your life.

”Gratitude is a powerful catalyst for happiness. It’s the spark that lights a fire of joy in your soul.”- Amy Collette

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5) Start your day of on a positive note 

One of the best ways to feel more positive on a bad day, is to start it of right, to start it of with a more positive mindset as soon as you wake up. Rather than going on your phone and checking socials straight away, open your blinds, get up go and shower, wash your face, brush your teeth, get dressed, make some breakfast. By doing this you’re going to stop yourself feeling negative perhaps from scrolling through socials and it gets you of your phone for a little while. There are quite a few great ways to start your day on a more positive note these could be: Meditating, working out, journaling, planning your day, organising your work space, turning on your favourite playlist and much more.

However you decide you want to kickstart your day, it’s best to remember that you have control of how you do that and how you feel even if you can’t control what’s going on around you. You have the power to change your negative mindset to a positive one and the power to be able to start your day of on a positive note. By waking up on a good note, you will feel better and have more motivation to get through the day, you’ll find yourself being more productive. If we start our days of negativity then we’re most likely going to feel the affects of that throughout the whole day. Don’t forget not everyday goes to plan, but you can keep that positive mind going throughout, pushing that negativity back and not let it ruin your day.

”Morning is an important time of day, because how you spend your morning can often tell you what kind of day you are going to have.”-Lemony Snicket

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