1) Have some you time

Blue Monday is considered to be one a rather depressing day and in general January itself is a rather depressing month. It’s best that if you’re feeling down, you make sure to take extra care of yourself and if you feel yourself feeling quite low, you try and do whatever you can in order to pick yourself back up again. By having some ‘you’ time you’re giving yourself some time to have a breather and to be able to really help yourself understand your emotions in the best way you can. When we’re feeling low, the best thing we can do is to be able to understand when we need to just have a time out for a little bit. To just be able to take ourselves away from everything that is going on around us and be there for ourselves.

It can be difficult to understand exactly when we need to take a time out, but quite often we know when we’re beginning to feel low. If you feel like you’re having a rough night mentally, then just make sure to give yourself some time, it doesn’t have to be a ridiculous amount of hours. It can simply be ten minutes, just to catch your breath and really take yourself away from things, so it doesn’t get too overwhelming. When it comes to having some time to yourself, this can be reading a book, watching a movie, taking a bath or having a shower, cooking up your favorite meal, doing something that you enjoy, indulging in self-care, anything that would make you feel better.

2) Don’t bottle things up 

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Blue Monday is considered to be a rather depressing day, but this comes for whenever you may be feeling down. Try not to bottle things up too much, it’s important to be able to talk about how you’re feeling. To be able to understand that it’s completely ok to talk about how you’re feeling and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Quite often, when we begin to hit a low point we often feel we have to bottle things up a lot of time, perhaps because we’re worried to talk about how we’re feeling. But, by keeping it to ourselves, it can often make us feel worse, and bottling things up only puts more pressure on ourselves. Just try to talk to someone about how you’re feeling as it can do a world of good.

If you start to get into a habit of bottling up your feelings, it can actually start to make you feel quite lonely and in turn, this can then make you feel quite anxious a lot of the time. Because you’re constantly hiding how you feel, it means that you’re not being able, to be honest with your feelings and you’re keeping it all locked up. When in reality you want to be able to speak about it, but you just don’t feel like it’s the right time. If you’re feeling specifically gloomy tonight, talk to someone, don’t go through it alone, there is a high chance someone else is feeling exactly the same as you and wants someone to talk to.

3) Plan something to look forward to 

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This is a really important one, even though things might seem quite gloomy today, it’s important to always have things to look forward to. It can be a real motivator knowing that you have things to look forward to and it can help you be a lot more positive about what is going on around you. So, when you start feeling low, get into the habit of planning things out that you look forward to, and that way you have things to keep you pushing forward. It can be a great source of motivation to have things to look forward to and it’s often something we forget to do even though it can do us the world of good.

When we start to feel frustrated or feel like we don’t have anything going on in our lives to look forward to by having certain plans it gives us that push and that’s very important. Be sure to get into the habit of making plans, but never put too much pressure on yourself, if you don’t feel up for it, then don’t make yourself go through with things you might not want to do. Give yourself time always, this is really important, Make the plans to be able to give yourself something to look forward to and enjoy, but also ensure that you’re in the right headspace to do so and you’re not doing it to suit others.

4) Give someone a call

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Sometimes, life can get very lonely and some days can feel a lot more lonelier than others, it can be difficult to keep a positive mindset when you’re struggling. But, it’s important that you reach out to people. It’s good when you’re feeling low to be able to talk to someone and it’s great to be able to call someone and have a conversation. It can make you feel less lonely if you decide to call someone and if you feel something is troubling you, it’s always good to get it off your chest. By taking some time out of your day to communicate with your friends or family, by phone call will make you feel more connected and make you feel better in the long run, getting it off your chest.

If you’re thinking of what to do tonight, then just sit down for a little while and give someone a call, and have a conversation. It can really help to be able to keep in contact with people and be able to have a conversation. Especially when you’re feeling low in yourself, to be able to take some time to just relax and talk to someone you trust. Definitely, getting into the habit of calling people more often and being able to communicate with others. Sometimes, all it takes is a conversation with someone that cheers you up to brighten your evening.

5) Do something that makes you smile 

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This is another key point when you’re feeling down is to be able to delve into something you enjoy. Something that makes you smile and can help pick your mood up straight away. It’s great to be able to focus on something else when you feel yourself going into a rather low point. Being able to channel your negative energy into something positive, by focusing on something you enjoy the most and being able to practice some self-care in order to make yourself feel better. Trying to keep your mind thinking positive can be quite difficult, but when you start to channel it into doing something that makes you smile, this in turn can help boost your mood massively.

Start by doing something small, don’t feel like you have to put a lot of pressure on yourself, you can’t instantly make yourself feel better sometimes and a lot of the time, it’ll definitely take time to be able to make you feel better. But, with small steps and practising a lot of self-care, make sure to do things that make you happy. For example, taking a break from social media can help massively or taking a break for yourself, a little breather, doing some exercise, going out for a walk, making sure to drink plenty of water, and eating healthier. Pamper yourself, watch your favorite movie, get cosy and relax and do something that you know will cheer you up massively.

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Words: Karley Myall